To worldly people spiritual life is distasteful, and to spiritual people worldly enjoyments are disgusting. It is not possible to force a worldly person to be spiritual or a spiritual person to be worldly. In spite of his persistent efforts, Shivakrishna failed to stop Sarada’s visits to Ramakrishna at Cossipore. But when Ramakrishna passed away on 16 August 1886, Sarada’s father smilingly remarked, “I repeated the mantram regularly at Kalighat, so I got the result.” In other words, he probably prayed for the Master’s death. What a terrible attachment to his son! Shivakrishna believed that he would get Sarada back after Sri Ramakrishna’s passing away, but things did not work out that way.
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After a week the disciples of Ramakrishna returned to Baranagore; Sarada stayed in the monastery rather than returning home. Sarada’s elder brother, Binay, secretly arranged an esoteric sacrificial ceremony to try to turn Sarada away from spiritual life. Twelve brahmins performed the ceremony for one month and twelve days. At the end of this time they told Binay: “It is impossible to bring your brother back to the world. He is praying intensely to realize God by embracing monastic life. Therefore, this sacrifice is not capable of bringing a pure soul to the lower plane.” Binay had spent four thousand rupees for the ceremony, but to no avail. At last he went to the disciples of Ramakrishna and asked them to send Sarada back home. In all likelihood they refused, preferring to let Sarada decide where to live. A month later Sarada heard about his brother’s machinations. He became disgusted and stopped visiting home completely. (Source: God Lived with Them)